It’s that time of year when we all tend to start reflecting on what felt important to us, what we’d like to keep or let go of, and where to focus our energy in the new year.
As we look ahead, it can be helpful to set our intention with our personal values in mind.
To let go of behaviours, relationships, circumstances that are no longer serving us, and to take actions that will enable us to live more meaningfully and purposefully.
My personal values are Family and Calm. They’re a daily reminder, a guiding north star that bring meaning to my life and help me show up the best version of myself as often as I’m able to.
You may want to take a moment to consider what are the core values that give meaning to your life. Your daily call to action then becomes: “May I try to …as best as I can today”.
James Clear (amazing author of the book, Atomic Habits) has this brilliant idea of writing annual Integrity Reports for himself. I love this concept, and he invites us all to give an Integrity Report a go!
This is something he does every year, as he revisits his personal values and reflects if he’s been living in a ‘sincere way’. And he asks himself the questions: “Am I actually living like the type of person I claim to be?” and “How can I set a higher standard in the future?”
In his 2016 Integrity Report, James Clear asks these questions of himself as he reflects on his four (4) personal values:
- Am I learning new things, exploring new places, and experimenting with new ideas?
- Am I questioning my limiting beliefs and trying to overcome them?
- Am I building habits that lead to continual improvement?
- Am I fulfilling my potential?
- Am I giving myself permission to be happy with where I am right now?
- Am I living like the type of person I claim to be?
- Am I mentally and physically strong?
- Am I preparing for unexpected challenges?
- Am I taking steps to overcome the challenges in my life?
- Am I contributing to the world or just consuming it?
- Am I someone others can count on?
- Am I helping to make things better for others?
So I’ve decided to write my own Integrity Report for 2023, and invite you to do the same.
In relation to my own values, I’ll be asking myself these questions:
- Am I making decisions that put my family first?
- Am I spending quality time every week with those I love?
- Am I saying no to some things so that I can say yes more often to my family’s requests for help?
- Am I taking responsibility to the energy I bring to my conversations?
- Am I building daily habits that down regulate my nervous system (such as breathwork)?
- Am I taking a few moments before I speak, so I respond more than I react?
The hard part at the end of this reflection is to be honest about the areas where you’re currently struggling and what you can do to improve over the next 12 months?
I can think of 2 definitions for Integrity that will help you stick to your new year action list.
Simon Sinek: Integrity is doing the right thing when no-one is looking
Brené Brown: Integrity is doing what’s right over what’s fun, fast and easy; and living into your values, not just professing them.
May 2023 be a year where you feel connected to all that is really important to you. And where you give yourself full permission to let go of what no longer serves you.
I’ll leave you with this beautiful quote from Dr. Thema Bryant:“Go into the New Year emotionally lighter. Put down what you no longer need to carry. Make room for what is to come. Give yourself grace and space to take flight.”